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John McDermott

1950 - 2019

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Monday

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3:00 pm - 5:00 pm

Monday, March 11, 2019

Madison Memorial Home

159 Main St.

Madison , New Jersey, United States

(973) 377-2735

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Monday

March

Celebration of Life Service

5:00 pm - 6:00 pm

Monday, March 11, 2019

Madison Memorial Home

159 Main St.

Madison , New Jersey, United States

(973) 377-2735

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Montville Health Department posted a condolence

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Please accept our most sincere condolences on John's passing. John had a rare intelligence, coupled with a gentle good nature, that made him a joy to work with. He will truly be missed.

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Tuesday, March 19, 2019

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Christopher Lobo posted a condolence

Tuesday, March 19, 2019

The yearly gathering of the International Center was great because of the meeting of old and new friends along with the sharing of potluck food. Jay was the grill master, and his use of a thermometer to make sure the fish was perfect was always amazing to me. Another clear memory I have of him was when he advised me as to whether the rice I had brought to the party was still good since Jocelyn and I had traveled with it earlier that day. He gave us the thumbs up. I enjoyed discussing a variety of topics with him. I will dearly miss him. Rest in peace Jay knowing that you touched our lives in a positive way and that we will always love you.

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Chris Fadden posted a condolence

Monday, March 18, 2019

To my fellow Regis Classmate John and loved ones...a beautiful family and a remarkable life..."And when our work is done; Our course on earth is run; May it be said: "Well Done!"... Well done John. We all will miss you at the 50th Reunion.

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James Verga posted a condolence

Monday, March 18, 2019

I remember John from our time at Regis as a congenial fellow who enjoyed spirited discussion. Although John left this life relatively early, it is comforting to know that he experienced so much joy in his family, his work, his pursuit of knowledge and travel. My wife and I offer our condolences to John’s family.

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Terry McDermott Spencer posted a condolence

Wednesday, March 13, 2019

I was so very sorry to hear of the passing of my cousin Jay. Jay was always a great column of strength, love and support. It's hard to know that he has passed. As a cousin, growing up, Jay was only 8 years older than me, but always seemed like he was older and wiser, but yet he always possessed the ability to join in the laughter--and often times start the joke. I have not seen Jay in many years, but there was great comfort knowing that he was "there". I wish only warm comforting memories of love to Tess, Miranda, Eileen, Marilyn and family.

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Ron and Penny Prosperi posted a condolence

Tuesday, March 12, 2019

Jay was a lifelong friend and will be dearly missed. We shared many memories together. He was a true gentleman in every sense of the word. He found enjoyment in everything that he did. It is hard to put into words the meaning of our friendship. For me, it was his laughter that I will really miss. Whenever we got together, we would share stories and always find something to laugh about. He was a person you could count on if you ever needed someone to talk to or need to help you out with something. A great person who touched many lives and will never be forgotten.

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Jonathan Olsen donated to WORLD WILDLIFE FUND INC

Monday, March 11, 2019

Dear Tess, This is a small donation to remember your husband, John.

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John Anderson posted a condolence

Monday, March 11, 2019

I tried to edit my original post, but wasn't able to, so our heartfelt love and sorrow go out to Tess and the McDermott family as well as the friends and family who loved him. John & Monica Anderson

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Jean Anderson posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

I was lucky to know wonderful Jay through my friendship with his sister, Eileen, and our close families’ connection starting on Johnson Avenue. What happy times: running free in the back fields, counting leeches in Clark’s pound, and playing softball and kickball with our parents in the street. I was delighted when Jay found true love with Tess and I looked forward to see their close bond and smiling faces as we caught up each year and at mutual family celebrations. We also hugged it out in times of mourning. Still in shock, I bid Jay farewell for now, and envision him in the loving arms of his Mom, Dad, and his brother Tommy. Deepest condolences to Tess, Eileen, Marilyn, Jim, and all who love him. Jay is missed already and forever. Love, Jean

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Cynthia Wiseman posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Dear Tess, My deepest sympathy to you and your family for the loss of Jay. Although I never had the pleasure of meeting him or spending time with you both, I know from the times at ALP and NYS TESOL events, when you spoke of him, your face and entire being would light up -- just glow -- so the connection was deep and strong and from the many posts and photos on FB since those many years ago...I wish for you some peace and solace in the memories of the joy and love that you shared over the years. All the best to you, Cynthia

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Gail Kinsey posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Jay was a kind and gracious man and I am so sorry to learn that he left us. He was a lovely friend to me in high school and college. His intellect and quiet humor were appreciated by all he met. I loved being a part of the group of friends that surrounded him. Heartfelt sympathies to Tess, Miranda and his extended family. Take comfort in knowing that he rests in the arms of God and you will see him again. Families are forever gail

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Sunday, March 10, 2019

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Jackie Cocozza posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

I worked with Jay at Prudential for many years. He had an excellent mind and was a fascinating conversationalist. I marveled at his work and cherished his friendship. I particularly remember talking to Jay as a single Dad who's young daughter just entered her teen years. He was befuddled by her behavior. I described the crying for no reason, hissy fits, eye-rolling at everything he said ..He said: "have you been looking in my windows??" I said no, Jay, I was a teenage girl and that's how they behave. The good news is they grow out of it. You just have to try to maintain your sanity until that happens. He laughed and said he was relieved. He thought somehow he was doing something wrong. I am so sorry he is gone. He was one very special person.

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Shelley posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Dear Tess, My deepest, deepest sympathy. Jay was a wonderful, loyal, giving, intelligent man who loved life and his wife to the fullest. May the memories of the many loving years you two shared sustain you in this time of darkness. In sorrow, Shelley

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Toby posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Jay was a calm and kind soul who was a thinker and engaged listener--a very special person. He and Tess were blessed with the special bond they created and nurtured. Jay wanted life to send him someone who reads, and they found one another. He is missed. He is celebrated. And, he will be remembered.

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Eric Cooper and Carol Numrich posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Jay brought joy to all he knew. He had an infectious laugh that tumbled out and embraced those who were present. And that wry smile of his spoke volumes as he winked at life. We will miss him so very much but are thankful for the wonderful times we have shared.

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Gary Caruso posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

My sincere condolences to Tess, the family and all his friends. What a shock! Jay’s obituary was a true testament to a wonderful life cut short. It is just sad that it had to be written at this time. I write this with a tear in my eye. Although I didn’t know or participate in many aspects of Jay’s life, I find his story true to my knowledge of him. I am proud to say that I am one of Jay’s longtime friends. We were waiting for him at the card game the other night. We all have known each other for around 60 years since grade school. Although I left Jersey many years ago, I always made an effort to maintain my friendships with my Jersey friends. This is a testament to the value I placed in Jay’s friendship. Jay and all my other longtime friends are very important to me and my family. He will be missed. We played “bombers” football, cards and games together in our teenage years and beyond. We cruised the dances, we laughed, shared joys and sorrows. We reconnected at “Big Chill weekends”, reminisced and laughed some more. My memories of Jay and my other longtime friends over the years are fondly cherished. We will miss him.

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John Shaw and Carol Morris posted a condolence

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Tess – our sincerest condolences for your immense loss. Jay started at Prudential two weeks after I did. We have been best friends ever since (45+ years). Although I left Pru and NJ 20+ years ago we kept in touch regularly. I will miss him.

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Julie Kane posted a condolence

Saturday, March 9, 2019

I knew Jay in his high school and early college years, when he was running the quarter mile on the Regis track team and working part time in an Asian book store in Manhattan, then as a cameraman. Then he went off to Lehigh as a short-haired engineering major, and promptly grew his hair to his shoulders and changed his major to philosophy, back in those antiwar protest days! He was a brilliant, kind, loyal person, and it is so good to know that he had a wonderful life in the four decades since I knew him. My deepest condolences to Tess, Miranda, and his sisters.

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Patric & Beth Dolan posted a condolence

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Jay was a great guy. Sincere condolences to Tess, Miranda, Marilyn and Eileen. Patric & Beth Dolan

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Saturday, March 9, 2019

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Beverly DeLuca posted a condolence

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Tess, We are all so very sad. What a kind and gentle soul Jay was. He was the one who told us we were sister/cousins as the siblings of twins and we have held on to that information with joy! Our hearts are heavy. Love, Beverly

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John Anderson posted a condolence

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Jay and I were friends from the age of 2, and remained friends to the day he passed. We grew up on the same street, went to the same grammar school, went to Jesuit high schools and hung out with the same group of friends that are still tightly knit today. We were, in fact, all together for a card game the night he passed, waiting for his arrival that never came. It's a shock to the system to be sure, for me, for my family, who was as close to the McDermotts as any family could be, and to the group of friends that have been together for over sixty years. Rest in peace, my friend, I'll miss the years we won't have as much as the time we shared.

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Steve Grieb posted a condolence

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Jay was an awesome friend, father, husband, & all-around good guy. I and all who knew him will miss him greatly.

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Joe and Mary Lynch posted a condolence

Thursday, March 7, 2019

We cherish almost 60 years of friendship and a lifetime of shared experiences and memories. We could always regale ourselves for hours about the early and middle years...and frequently did so. No detail was too small or insignificant. Curious and passionate... An interest in everything... Lover of sports analytics... Great sense of humor and a hearty laugh... We miss you already. Always, Joe & Mary Lynch

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